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2008

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July

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June

Tina visits us for the solstice

May

Melissa's graduation; Matthew's pirate-themed belated birthday pool party; Memorial Weekend BBQ at Quyen, Dave, and Dong-yi's house; Bryan's BBQ and Cow-Monkey Birthday.

April

A Conversation with Amy Richards and Dan Savage at Herbst Theatre with Patrick, Muni forum

March

San Francisco Ballet with Patrick: Tribute to Jerome Robbins; long weekend to San Diego: visited Tina, the Caseys, the Careys, the Quintanas.

February

Chris and Andy's Birthday Party

January

Wind storm shatters upstairs neighbor's window; House of Prime Rib with Danny, Drew, Phil, Nate, and Chris; Patrick's special dinner; Visited the Honmas; Bryan's BBQ; Macworld; Sushi lunch at Remi's with Remi, Jesse, Chris, and Andy.

2007

December

Bruce and Mike's yin and yang party; I'm sick for pretty much the entire month of December; brunch at home with Scott, Andy, Ryan, Jason, and Patrick; bought an iMac; French Christmas Party; Phil, Danny, and Drew's New Year's Eve party

November

Dinner at Modern Thai with Chris, Nate, Danny, Drew, Phil, Quyen, and Dave. Lunch at Spoons with the Honmas. Patrick returns early from Handan, China. Lunch at Park Chow with James and Joel. Creole Thanksgiving at home with Tony Q, Chris, Nate, Phil, Drew, Danny, Shain, Remi, Jesse, Ted, Emery, Sam, Dave, Quyen, Dong Yi. Dinner at Ruth's Chris Steak House with Chris, Nate, Jen, and Patrick. Triangle Martial Arts Association self-defense course. Thom W's farewell party at Solstice.

October

Dinner with Tony Q at Ziryab. Dinner at Golden Era Vegetarian Cuisine with Mikey, Nina, Robert, Nate, Chris, Kelly, and BK. Dinner with Nate and Jen at Town's End. Brunch as Slow Club and 1st Annual Pacific Pinball Exposition at Marin County Civic Center Exhibit Hall with Chris, Nate, Jason, and Ryan. Breakfast at Boulevard Cafe and Day at Great America and Bryan's BBQ with Chris, Nate, Thom, and Jeff. Dinner at Phil, Danny, and Drew's with Phil, Danny, Drew, Paul, Quyen, Mom Ryan, and Tony Q. Pastries brunch followed by Preston Vineyards wine tasting with Chris, Nate, and Alex. Brunch at Herbivore then tour of Stanford University with Tony Q, Chris, and Nate. Dinner at Paxti's with Chris and Nate. Halloween Party at Phil, Danny, and Drew's. Dinner at at Phil, Danny, and Drew's with at Phil, Danny, Drew, Andy, JY, Adrian, Ron, and Fonsie.

September

Brunch and Stow Lake with Mom Ryan and Patrick. Day trip to Santa Cruz with Patrick. Patrick leaves for China for 6 months, going away dinner at Houston's with Nate, Chris, Drew, Danny, Phil, Quyen, Mom Ryan. Cow Palace home improvement show, In-N-Out Burger, Exploratorium with Leilah, and Cost Plus with Chris and Nate. The Incredible Shrinking Woman and Yentl at The Castro Theatre with Chris and Nate. Dinner at Fuzio with Chris, Nate, Ted, and Emery. Drinks at Badlands with Chris, Nate, Ted, Emery, and sneeper. Lifeforce at The Castro Theatre with Chris and Nate. Walked the Castro and chatted briefly with Brian and Kelly. Dinner at Escape From New York Pizza then saw Starman and Brainstorm at The Castro Theatre with Chris. Dinner at La Med with (Nate's dad) Brian, Nate, and Chris. Folsom Street Fair with Nate and everyone.

August

Barbara G visits. Club Dragon with Nate. Ikea with Chris, Nate, and Patrick. Karaoke with Remi, Jesse, Patrick, Chris, Nate and others. The Lego Store with Patrick, Chris, and Nate. I start supervising at UCSF. Espetus Churrascaria Brazilian Steak House with Jen C, Nate, Chris, and Patrick for Nate's birthday. Golden Gate Bridge and first dinner with Chris and Nate. Dinner at Chris and Andy's with Chris, Andy, Remi, Jesse, and Patrick. Began work on Danny's new website.

July

Dinner with Travis at Andalu. Fourth of July with Jonathan and Adrian. Camping and whitewater rafting with Steve and Travis. Dinner at AsiaSF with Tony Q, Chris, and Nate. Repaired Aaron's laptop. Repaired the Mac Mini. Variously explored San Francisco with Chris and Nate. Patrick meets Mom. Dinner with Chris and Andy. Up Your Alley with Patrick and Nate. Chris and Nate move in to Showplace Square.

June

Dinners at home with Remi and Jesse, Jen and Lou. Patrick announces the end of Lodestar Quarterly. Dianne visits. Chris and Nate move from Honolulu to San Francisco. Tina visits. Underwear party. Tina and Daniel visit. Gay Pride with Patrick, Chris, and Nate. Dinner at home with Tony Q, Phil, Chris, Nate, and Patrick. Union Square shopping with Patrick. Dinner with Chris, Nate, Phil, Danny, Drew, and Patrick at Phil, Danny, and Drew's.

May

Danny's spa opens, Hawaiian vacation, Nate's graduation, Dinner at Gaspare's with Suzan, Exploring San Francisco with Geordie and Jake, Kerry leaves San Francisco, Dinner with Suzan at Gaspare's.

April

Patrick's Beignet Brunch; Corinna's website launch; dinner at Florio with Bryan C and Patrick; Union Square shopping with Patrick; Game Night (Clue) with Phil, Drew, and Patrick; City of San Francisco Town Hall for Registered Domestic Partners with Patrick; Japanese baskets at Asian Art Museum with Mom Ryan and Patrick; Danny's website launch; Vivienne Westwood at the De Young.

March

Travis' birthday celebration at Club Dragon; champagne and black forest cupcakes with Brian and Kelly; Chinese New Year Parade with Drew, Phil, Dave, and Quyen; Honmas visit; Domenica and Corey's wedding; Casey visit; first time to Underworld.

February

Julie's karaoke birthday party; Stanton Warriors at 1015 Folsom; Steven's Spanish and Brown birthday party; games at JYAC followed by Club Dragon; James's going away lunch at LuLu; Patrick releases his music on MySpace; Day with the Honmas; Dinner at Namu with Mom Ryan, Patrick, and Sam; Roast chicken dinner at home with Patrick, Mom Ryan, Phil, Danny, Drew.

January

Patrick and Sam visit New Orleans; Thai lunch with Remi and Jesse; Macworld with Geordie, Michael, and Marc; Remi and Jesse's karaoke party at Jesse's place; Patrick cooks an Italian dinner at home with Mom Ryan, Phil, Danny, and Drew; Crawfish boil with Phil, Drew, Danny, Lauren, Tina, Toan, and Quyen; Patrick cooks dinner at home with Tony Q, Phil, Danny, Drew, and Toan; Mom Ryan cooks dinner for me and Patrick; Dinner at Catch with Patrick.

2006

Summary: Emery's Birthday (Sharks versus Ducks); I start using Flickr; Hawaii vacation; Dinner at home with Patrick and Felice; Patrick works briefly for Books, Inc.; Up Your Alley with Phil, Drew, and Quyen; Jamie's Memorial; Folsom Street Fair with Stephen F and Will W; Camping at Pinnacles; Helped the Honmas move; Halloween Masquerade Cocktail Party at Danny, Phil, and Drew's; Jonathan and Adrian's birthday and housewarming party; Golden Dragon Acrobats with Patrick; Candlelight Christmas Concert with the Mission Dolores Basilica Choir with Patrick and Mom Ryan; Tina visits for 3 nights; Tina and Melissa join us for a visit with the Honmas; German Christmas Eve Party; New Year's Eve party at Phil, Drew, and Danny's.

December

Tree trimming party at Phil, Drew, and Danny's; Dean's Office Lunch at Ton Kiang; Patrick's first ever real Christmas tree trimming; Karaoke with Julie B and friends at The Mint; 15th Annual Candlelight Christmas Concert with the Mission Dolores Basilica Choir with Patrick and Mom Ryan; Tina visits for 3 nights; Tina and Melissa join us for a visit with the Honmas; German Christmas Eve Party; Christmas Day Brunch at Yank Sing with Patrick, Mom Ryan, Sam, Phil, Drew, Danny, Ted, Emery, Remi, Jesse. New Year's Eve party at Phil, Drew, and Danny's.

November

Day of the Dead with Danny, Phil, and Drew; Mongolian Ping Pong and potluck at ynotswim's; Stanford Shopping Center and helping Honmas set up house; Boulette's Larder and Borat and Patrick cooks dinner for my birthday; Jonathan and Adrian's birthday and housewarming party; Thanksgiving feast with Patrick, Mom Ryan, Sam, Danny, Phil, Drew, Antuan, and Kartik; Macy's Treelighting Ceremony in Union Square; Golden Dragon Acrobats with Patrick.

October

Camping at Pinnacles; Helped the Honmas move; Patrick stops working at Books, Inc.; Halloween Masquerade Cocktail Party at Danny, Phil, and Drew's.

September

Jesse's karaoke birthday party with Remi and Jesse, Folsom Street Fair with Stephen F and Will W.

August

Jamie's Memorial; Dinner at Xiao Loong with Stacey and Tim; Stanford Shopping Center and lunch at Max's Opera Cafe with Melissa, Mom Ryan, and Patrick; Kiana's 1st Birthday at Ortega Park; Chicken casserole dinner with Phil and Drew

July

Patrick cooks a Greek meal for me and Felice; Dessert at Harvey's with Phil, Danny, and Drew; Brunch at Boogaloos with Sam, Mom Ryan, Phil, and Drew; Patrick begins working as events coordinator for Books, Inc.; Glutinous rice pancakes dinner and Fourth of July Fireworks with Phil and Drew; Lunch with Julianne and Danae at Madison and Fifth in Palo Alto; Hillsdale Shopping Center and Sawyer Camp Trail and Sunset Beach with Drew; Installed Xubuntu for the first time; The Cameltoe Show at The Purple Onion with Phil and Drew; Dinner with Patrick and Mom Ryan at Bocce Cafe; Dinner with Phil and Drew at La Mediterranee; Trebor Healey reads from Sweet Son of Pan; Shabu shabu dinner at Tuan and Tuan's; Up Your Alley with Phil, Drew, and Quyen

June

Peter, Phil, and Drew come for a Southern dinner; George Michael: A Different Story (Frameline 30) with Patrick; picnic in Dolores Park with Patrick; Cruel and Unusual, Letters to Dolly, and FTF: Female to Femme (Frameline 30) with Joel; mini family reunion at the Honmas home; Gay Pride Sunday with Phil and Drew

May

Hawaii Vacation: Chris's Graduation

April

Disneyland with Patrick; CalWAC web accessibility conference; Lodestar Quarterly Issue 17; started using Flickr; PJ's Oyster Bed for Patrick's birthday with Mom Ryan; Dinner and movies with Phil and Drew; Brunch with Patrick and Mom Ryan at Eric's; Designing the Virtual Classroom by Rena Palloff and Keith Pratt; Dinner with Patrick at Thai House Bar and Cafe; Medicare Part D workshop; downtown shopping; Dinner with Phil, Drew, and Tony; Dinner with Remi and Jesse.

March

Visit with the Honmas; French dinner with Galen, Phil, Drew, and Danny

February

Emery's Birthday Sharks versus Ducks, Melissa comes to visit for a day, Golden Gate Bridge with Drew and Phil, Travis's Birthday BBQ

January

Patrick and I find a new home

2005

Summary: Mom Ryan Visits; Fletcher's birthday party and Chinese New Year at Johnson and Chika's; Adobe buys Macromedia for $3.4 billion; Patrick goes to New Orleans for Saints and Sinners; Block party and BBQ with the Honmas; Tina Visits in June; July 7 London terrorist bombings; The Goat, or Who Is Sylvia? with Patrick, Melissa, Karen, and Lana; Camping and whitewater rafting on the south fork of the American River in Lotus, California; Charo at the Herbst Theater; Lani gives birth to Kiana; Hurricane Katrina devastates New Orleans and the Gulf Coast; Mom Ryan moves to San Francisco; de Young Museum Opening; Beijing People's Art Theatre in The Teahouse by Lao She; Chris and Nate Visit San Francisco; Creole Thanksgiving; Hawaiian Vacation with Chris and Nate, New Year's Eve Dessert Party with Danny, Drew, and Phil.

December

Danny's birthday party and dinner, Steve D's birthday party at Eight, Hawaiian Vacation with Chris and Nate, New Year's Eve Dessert Party with Danny, Drew, and Phil

November

Beijing People's Art Theatre in The Teahouse by Lao She, Birthday Dinner at Plumpjack Cafe with Patrick, Chris and Nate Visit San Francisco, Creole Thanksgiving

October

Mom Ryan's Desperate Loveseat Hunt, Comedy Day featuring Robin Williams with Tony A (and Stephen F and Brian/Bryan, Steve L's birthday party, de Young Museum Opening, China Songshan Shaolin Temple Buddhist Ceremony

September

Mom Ryan decides to stay in San Francisco; Visited Galen's new home in Noe Valley; Lunch with Peter, Galen, Mom Ryan, and Patrick at Le Zinc; Bill and Kevin's birthday party; Mom Ryan moves in to her new home on Dolores Street; Folsom Street Fair with Peter, Galen, and Tony A; Skit Night

August

Club Dragon and Baghdad Cafe, Citizen Cake with Patrick, Charo at the Herbst Theater, We get a Mac Mini, Lee's I Love the 80s -- Flashback Birthday Party, frankfarm.org is restored, Lani gives birth to Kiana, Gus Gus at Mezzanine, Sushi Night 001, Hurricane Katrina devastates New Orleans and the Gulf Coast, Mom Ryan comes to stay with us

July

July 4 weekend camping at Fife's (and karaoke at the Triple R) in Guerneville; Patrick gets an iPod; July 7 London terrorist bombings; Dinner at Mifune with the Honmas; floppies are dead; Shopping at Costco with Joel and Patrick; Visited Joel's home for the first time; The Goat, or Who Is Sylvia? at American Conservatory Theater with Patrick, Melissa, Karen, and Lana; Melissa's last day at the office; Remi's birthday party; frankfarm.org crashes (again); Italian dinner with Yan and Patrick at home; Camping and whitewater rafting on the south fork of the American River in Lotus, California

June

Rob's birthday at Satsuma; Dinner at Firewood then Comics Gone Wild at Harvey's with Peter and Galen; Sam and Patrick return from Vienna; San Francisco Giants baseball game with the School of Pharmacy; The Universe Within with Steven, Travis, and Patrick; Tina visits us for 4 days and we eat: Bittersweet Cafe, Citizen Cake, Michael Mina, Mistral; Pink Saturday with Patrick, Andy, Sally, Eric, Ryan D, Ted, Emery. We met Alex and Mark (Marc?), Galen, Peter, Scott, Brett, Katie, and Jason. Gay Pride Festival with Patrick.

May

Dinner at home with Galen and Peter; Castro bar hopping with Tony Q, Andy, Ryan, and Patrick C; Patrick goes to New Orleans for Saints and Sinners; Bryan's birthday pool party and BBQ at Rich's; Chocolate and Chalk Art Festival; Dinner with Tony Q and Steven at Thai Chef; Kung-Fu Hustle with BK, Kel, Chris, Rick; Block party and BBQ with the Honmas; Patrick and Sam leave for Vienna, Austria

April

Dinner with Melissa and Patrick at Gaspare's, Strawberry Hill and Stow Lake and cake from Ambrosia and dinner at Aziza for Patrick's birthday, Adobe buys Macromedia for $3.4 billion, Patrick lands a job with S.W.I.F.T.

March

Ethan Mao and Thai Chef with Galen, Peter, Stephen K, Tony A, Tony Q, and Patrick; Kelly's birthday; Jesse's birthday at Buca di Beppo; Gary Hill and Robert Bechtle at SFMOMA; Dinner and dancing with Travis and Steve; Dinner at Best of Thai Noodles with Anna B; Galen's birthday.

February

BK's birthday party, Fletcher's birthday party and Chinese New Year at Johnson and Chika's, 5th anniversary with Patrick

January

Mom Ryan visits, Dinner at home with Tony Q, frankfarm.org gets rebuilt

2004

Summary: Mayor Gavin Newsom declares same-sex marriages valid in the city and county of San Francisco; Art Deco exhibit at the Legion of Honor; Patrick teaches in Zibo, China; A Night of 34 Cheeses; Angel Island Hike; Galen's Pre-Pink Saturday Party; Pink Saturday; San Francisco Gay Pride Parade and Festival; N'awlins Cookin' Party; Gay Asian Pacific Alliance Same-Sex Marriage Rally; Conservatory of Flowers and Melissa's Dahlia Glen Potluck and Picnic; frankfarm.org crashes; Halloween and Potluck and Steve L's Birthday Party; GAMX Halloween Party; Halloween Party at Tony Q's; The Inn at Parkside in Sacramento; Thanksgiving with the Honmas; Kinsey Sicks: Oy Vey in a Manger 2; Christmas Eve Dinner at 2223 Restaurant; Christmas Brunch with Galen and Patrick at Harbor Village; Kabuki Springs and Spa communal baths with Patrick; New Years Eve with Patrick at Samovar Tea House

December

Began rebuilding frankfarm.org, Tony Q's Psych Exercise, Holiday Lunch with the office at Scala's Bistro, Kinsey Sicks: Oy Vey in a Manger 2, Christmas Eve Dinner at 2223 Restaurant, Christmas Brunch with Galen and Patrick at Harbor Village, Kabuki Springs and Spa communal baths with Patrick, New Years Eve with Patrick at Samovar Tea House

November

Jelly Belly Factory Tour; John Kerry narrowly loses the presidential election; frankfarm.org crashes; Dumplings Dinner with Tony, Bobby, and friends; Thanksgiving with the Honmas; Potluck and Les Invasions Barbares at Galen's

October

Halloween and Potluck and Steve L's Birthday Party, Patrick sees Alan Hollinghurst and Ha Jin at readings, Tony and Bobby come over for French dinner, GAMX Halloween Party, Halloween Party at Tony Q's, The Inn at Parkside in Sacramento

September

Geisha: Beyond the Painted Smile at the Asian Art Museum with Patrick, Melissa, Laverne, Sam, and Dianne. Dinner at Park Chow with Patrick, Travis, and Steve. Chinese Dinner with Tony and Bobby. Mozilla Firefox releases 1.0 Preview Release. Bill and Glenn's house joining party. Bill and Kevin's birthday party. Lodestar Issue 11. Dinner at Yum Yum Fish with Patrick and Melissa. Folsom Street Fair with Patrick. Set up computers for AJ and Melissa. Windows Server 2003 training at LearnIt! with Jim Galvin.

August

Dinner with Dexter at Korea House. Attended the first-ever-in-the-world same-sex marriage rally for queer Asians. Conservatory of Flowers with Patrick. Dahlia Glen Picnic with Patrick and Melissa. Lee's 32th Birthday Party (Volaré). Nihonmachi Festival with Galen and Tony Q. I take a week of from work and Mikey comes to visit: Foxy Brown at the Red Vic, Conservatory of Flowers, Kamei Restaurant Supply, crepes, Apple Store, Cafe Venue, Smack Dab, The Canvas Gallery, visit with Brian and Kelly (Mikey meets Jesse), POP! at SF MOMA, Ferry Building Marketplace, watched Baraka on DVD. Badminton and Kill Bill Volume 2 with Dale and friends. Patrick begins the TESOL program at SFSU. Watched our pal Nico Santos perform stand-up comedy at 50 Mason. Brunch with Lani and the boys at Miyake.

July

Yum Yum Fish with Melissa and Patrick; Patrick's first Madonna remix CD: American Life and Music; Bay to Barkers; In-n-Out Burger and free doughnuts at Krispy Kreme with Patrick; Helped Galen and Charles with Urban Challenge; Low-carb dinner with Stacey and Tim; Dinner at Spiazzino with Galen; Thai food with Joe M and Patrick; Patrick cooks for 40 at our N'awlins Cookin' Party.

June

I take a week off after Patrick returns from China, Scharffen Berger chocolate factory tour, dinner with Brian and Kelly and Patrick at Chow, visited Buena Vista Park and took a few photos, dinner at Zazie with Melissa and Patrick, our first time to Smack Dab, Angel Island Hike with Travis and friends, Lodestar Quarterly Issue 10 goes live, Patrick goes to jury duty (and I was on call but didn't have to go in), Galen's Pre-Pink Saturday Party, my first time to San Francisco Pink Saturday, San Francisco Gay Pride Parade and Festival with Patrick, dinner with Galen and Patrick at Xiao Loong

May

Bay to Breakers with Travis, Steve, Bryan, Dave, Andy, Scott, and Hao. Patrick returns from China.

April

House of Chen with Patrick and BriKelJess; Nara Sushi and Shaolin Soccer with Travis and Steve; Aaron's birthday dinner at Shanghai 1930 with me, Patrick, Aaron, Jamie, Demetrius, Joseph, Brock, Nicole, and special surprise guests Aaron's teenage brothers John and Alex, and Aaron's mom Marsha; Shopping downtown and dinner at Zazie and a visit with Aaron and Jamie for Patrick's 34th birthday; Patrick goes to China until the end of May; A Night of 34 Cheeses at Jamie's; Dinner with BriKel at Sunflower; Cherry Blossom Festival Parade in Japantown with Travis, Steve, Wei, Yan Hui, Derrick, Tony, Stephen.

March

Lunch and garage cleaning with Lani and Rob's family; Visited Julianne, Danae, Gwen, Hoover, and their kitty cat in East Palo Alto then dinner at Nola's; Brunch with Bill and Kevin at Blue; Lodestar Issue 9; Dinner at Thailand Restaurant with Patrick and Erick; Art Deco exhibit at the Legion of Honor with Travis, Kevin, and Stacey; Ena does cornrows then quits; Punch Line Comedy Club with comics Steve Mazan, Becky Pedigo, and headliner Ngaio Bealum and with friends Yan Liu (aka oldcat) and Stephen K. (aka sfkid) and Aaron and the event sponsor, Tony.

February

Mayor Gavin Newsom declares same-sex marriages valid in the city and county of San Francisco, Alysia's ballet performance with Colleen and Pedro, we get television, Patrick makes a special Valentine's Day dinner for me, Patrick is nominated for the Pushcart Prize, Erick's birthday dinner at Watercress, Travis's 29th birthday party at his place in Campbell.

January

Patrick's mom casts off the evil nuns; readings by Justin Chin, Sara Seinberg, and Anchee Min; new computer; OSACA gets its new cabinetry; movie night at Aaron's new apartment: Andromeda Strain (1971)

2003

Summary: Our first anti-war protest, Don and Jenna's Wedding at Ralston Hall in Belmont, Patrick goes to Arcata then Los Angeles, I go to ExtraFeeWorld with Travis and friends, Sandra Bernhard at Brava Theater, My birthday in San Diego with Patrick and Tina, Our first Masquerade Ball at Jamie's, New Year's Eve at Jamie's

December

Our first Masquerade Ball at Jamie's, Trebor Healey's reading for his first novel, Lodestar Issue 8 goes live, A Christmas Carol, Smuin's The Christmas Ballet, Christmas Eve Dinner at Watercress, The Ant War, New Year's Eve at Jamie's with Jamie, Aaron, Demetrius, and James

November

Office team at work moves into new offices; My birthday in San Diego with Tina, Patrick, Domenica, and Corey.

October

Dinner with Erik and Carol; Accidental Castro Street Fair; Chris De Lay starts blogging; Computer troubles; Blue Angels and Fleet Week air show with Patrick, Tony, and Travis; Patrick makes changes to Second Island; Yerba Buena Bowling with Jesse, James, Brian, Kelly, and Patrick; Asian Art Museum, Ben and Jerry's, and dinner at home with Travis and Patrick; Patrick and Sam see Evgeny Kissin play at Davies Hall.

September

George W. Bush admits that Saddam Hussein had nothing to do with the war on Iraq, ExtraFeeWorld with Travis and friends, Sandra Bernhard at Brava Theater

August

Patrick Visits Los Angeles with Sam; Melissa's Dahlia Show; Little Brian's Birthday; Blaster worm downs Windows NT4, 2000, XP, and Server 2003; Sobig virus is fastest-spreading ever

July

Fourth of July with the Honmas, Chow Mein at Jamie's, Bastille Day on Claude Lane, Asian Art Museum and Seven Course Beef at Anh Hong Phu-Nhuan, Afternoon with Amy in the Castro, Up Your Alley Fair and Robot Games and Expo at Fort Mason

June

Patrick goes to Arcata, UCSF School of Pharmacy graduation dinner at Mark Hopkins Intercontinental Hotel, anal sex is legal!, Patrick's first gay pride festival (but not parade)

May

Randy Williams' housewarming party, Cindy Williams School of Pharmacy Staff Appreciation Day, Don and Jenna's Wedding at Ralston Hall in Belmont

April

Patrick's 33th Birthday Celebrations: Kabuki Springs, 2223 Restaurant, Harbor Village with Amy, David, Jamie, Aaron, Jason, and Sam; Patrick's first mix CD called The Beat Archaeology; Matthew's first birthday; Dinner with Glenn and Bill at Suraj; Dim sum lunch with Don and Jenna at Kan's; Patrick sees Scott Heim's Mysterious Skin.

March

Audium (a theatre of sound-sculptured space), Perspectives of Youth with LGBT Parents, Bush wages war against Iraq.

February

Lasagna dinner party at Jamie's, Our first anti-war protest, Patrick and I celebrated our 3rd anniversary at Ana Mandara.

January

Belly dancing and Middle Eastern food with Amy and David; dim sum with Nico, Adrian, and Little Brian; film noir and Mandarin films galore; writer Denis Johnson at Brava; SQL Slammer worm wreaks havoc by infecting 75,000 Microsoft SQL servers in only 15 minutes.

2002

Summary: We move out of 886 Capp St #A and into an in-law in Parkside; Lodestar Quarterly begins publishing; vacation with Patrick to Los Angeles, San Diego, and Laguna Beach; Patrick finishes his first novel, Second Island, and starts learning Mandarin; Lani and Rob welcome their second baby boy Matthew to the world; President Bush prepares for war against Iraq.

December

Lodestar Quarterly releases its 4th issue; Saw Felice Picano and his Gay Presses of New York exhibit at the Library; Christmas dim sum, ice skating, and Lord of the Rings: The Two Towers

November

Leaky ceiling at home; My birthday party at Watergate with Brian, Kelly, Little Brian, Adrian, Nico, David, and Amy; Felice Picano's world premiere of The Bombay Trunk; Second Island is submitted to 10 major publishing houses; Jeremy's 3th birthday party; Thanksgiving at our home with Amy, David, Sam, Yuichi, Adrienne, Armando, and Kent.

October

Patrick's first novel is off to the agent, Patrick meets Noël Alumit, Stacey and Tim Oborne join us for dinner, Halloween at home

September

Lodestar Quarterly releases its 3rd issue, Amy and David sleep over, Pete and Kim get married at the Ritz-Carlton in Half Moon Bay

August

Vacation with Patrick to Los Angeles (West Hollywood, Universal Studios), San Diego, and Laguna Beach (continued); Patrick begins studying Mandarin

July

Rainbow Curve is interested in publishing "Love is the Rage"; Tina Luu comes to visit; vacation with Patrick to San Diego, Los Angeles, and Laguna Beach; Champagne and Anthony's wedding; Patrick sends his finished version of Second Island to his agent Mitchell Waters

June

Patrick meets David Leavitt, our first time to orangeAge, Lodestar Quarterly releases its 2nd issue

May

We meet my second nephew Matthew, Gilroy earthquake, DSL setup with sonic.net is a sweet dream, Patrick's first visit to In-n-Out Burger, Lodestar Quarterly's first reading

April

My sister Lani gives birth to her second son; Dinner at Mecca with Clay, Amy, and David; We move to a new home in Parkside

March

Dexter visits, School of Pharmacy Web site redesign is completed, Lodestar Quarterly Web site premieres, Patrick finishes the entire first draft of Second Island, Oyster Boy Review wants to publish "Blackout"

February

Second anniversary with Patrick, Jeremy performs "Frere Jacques"

January

We finally get high-speed Internet at home, We go to a poetry reading featuring Daphne Gottlieb and Thea Hillman, Hanging Loose decides to publish "I Wouldn't Say No"

2001

Summary: Patrick graduates from SFSU and within 6 months he signs a contract with Curtis Brown, Ltd., Patrick works briefly for wcities.com, I start working at UCSF, We move out of 302 Junipero Serra Blvd and in to 886 Capp St #A, World Trade Center is destroyed.

December

Christmas vacation at Applewood Inn in Guerneville, California

November

Corinna visits. Thanksgiving with Aaron and Jamie. Moved from 302 Junipero Serra Blvd to 886 Capp St #A.

October

Patrick and I sign a deal for a new rental. Patrick signs his contract with Curtis Brown, Ltd. Patrick participates in the 4th Lambda Literary Festival (formerly Behind Our Masks).

September

First Dinner at Brian and Kelly's, Patrick sees Madonna in concert, We discover Ton Kiang, Terrorists hijack four planes and attack the World Trade Center and the Pentagon, Patrick gets the thumbs up from an agent at Curtis Brown Ltd., We both suffer from colds.

August

Patrick and Amy make pottery. Kevin, Shelly, and Glenn visit. Patrick discovers MixMeister. We help Brian and Kelly move. Our range leaks gas. Dianne visits. Gail delivers a big photo. I see Tom and Bill at Glenn's 32th birthday party. Patrick starts classes at City College. Patrick gets an idea for a new book.

July

Patrick and I dine at Empress of China. Sam meets Frank. Frank starts working at UCSF. Patrick gets laid off from wcities.com. Sister Theresa and Sister Michael come to dinner. Chris De Lay visits from Seattle.

June

Our first visit to South Lake Tahoe. Kelly Hawk, Kelly Hawkins, and John Cornicello stay for dinner.

May

I set up frankfarm.org and frankfarm.com (switched things around); Patrick graduates with a Master of Fine Arts degree in Creative Writing; Colleen's birthday party for Pedro, Antonio, and Alysia; Visit Tina and Daniel in Sonoma.

April

Patrick finishes his thesis, I start working for Marcia, I work on freelancing.

March

Patrick gets a new laptop, we go to the zoo, "20 Years of Madonna in 7 Minutes," Sam stops by to pick up his tiger.

February

First anniversary with Patrick, We hold our housewarming party for 302 Junipero Serra Blvd, The 6.8 Nisqually Quake shakes up the Pacific Northwest.

January

New Year's with Patrick, Patrick starts working at wcities, the house is almost completely done getting set up.

2000

Summary: I quit my job at Adobe, Patrick and I travel in Europe for a month 3 months after our first in-person meeting then travel more in California and Washington, I move from Seattle to San Francisco, We set up house in 302 Junipero Serra Blvd.

December

Received furniture orders and started setting up the house

November

Moved in to 302 Junipero Serra Blvd -- home for at least the next year

October

Settled in at temporary housing on Nob Hill, Househunted nearly to the point of exhaustion.

September

Visited Vancouver, B.C. with Patrick; Moved from Seattle to San Francisco; Moved in to Nob Hill Chateau for 2 months

August

Rebuilt my web site, Polished my resume, Prepared for the move to San Francisco

July

Patrick's first visit to Seattle

June

Visited San Francisco and Mountain View

May

Second date with Patrick in Europe: Paris, London, Amsterdam, Marseille, Barcelona, Collioure, Aix en Provence.

April

Celebrated Domenica's Birthday, Planned for Europe

March

Got my United States passport, Left Adobe

February

Skied at Whistler, Visited the Bay Area and Los Angeles, Met Patrick, Got a new computer

January

Celebrated New Year's with Steve and Bryan, then Michael.